How to handle H in separate room

[cat03]

Denial of the situation, you can't believe this is happening, thus you can't cope with it. I'd say mostly denial/shock. Until you come to terms that this situation won't be solved while you hold your breath you won't be able to formulate a strategy of how to cope w/it.

Accept that this is a long road and that your H is coming around on his own time, not yours. It is easy to despair when you don't see an end in sight, again, you H shows signs that he is coming around so there is some progress, don't rush it.

Just had to share an excellent line I just read from a man who's trying to come around to his W, thought it could help here:

...I'm under this pressure from her, I don't actively make as much effort in the areas I worked to correct. I get upset about all these accusations, there are hard feelings