Just here to repeat the advice you got from the others. It's exactly right.
I screwed up for a long time. Did everything wrong. Took me a long time to learn to DB and I feel I still don't have it right. But I'm better at it every day.
Part of DB'ing is putting your failures behind you and looking forward to your next success.
Your R has a great deal of hope in it. What your H is saying is actually extremely positive compared to the common sitch. Most WAS will say with resolution that it is over. It is only that tiny spark of doubt that we work on. Yours says there is doubt. That is huge.
The best thing you can do is to take care of yourself. Calm down, give him lots and lots of space and then give him more, but all lovingly.
Anxiety and fear send them running. Calm confidence pulls them in.
