How to handle H in separate room

[cat03]

I felt just the same way after my H came back, he wasnt' ready to be close and affectionate and didn't feel the same towards me & that just killed me, I think the following posts are great advice:

Nothing dramatic, nothing angry....just done out of peace and respect. The more I let him go and showed him unconditional love the more he would come closer to me. he even told me later when I did this it drew him closer to me " cause it felt like I believed in him!"
I think you need to give him alot of space and allow yourself to heL CAUSE YOU HAVE A HARD PART TO GO THRU IF HE TRULY WANTS TO RECONCILE. aND DO NOT RUSH ANYTHING, YOU WANT HIM YOU WANT HIM TO GROW. NOT FORCE HIM TOO.

JOKERMAN WOULD TELL ME NOT TO PUSH AT ALL CAUSE HE WOULD BE MORE DRAWN TO WANT TO BE A PART OF THE ow. I loved the advice he gave me and I will tell you that sometimes I thought well
me??? I do not push but upon further examination of myself I realized as humble as I am I could let go more and get thru the fear and soothe myself not expect him to fix my PAIN

I see lots of hope in your sitch, I also need how you want to jump the gun and want to drag him to your side. Remember, he is his own person, he is at a different stage than you, he works differently, you can't make him do anything.

Just the fact that he was there with you watching teh DVD was a great sucess, don't expect much. LOWER ALL your expectations, don't be needy or he'll go running out of the door. I'm still guilty of that, my H even told me I can be smothering with my questions and needs.

Our needs are real, but we also need to be realistic and see when we are doing more damage than good. Be PATIENT please, show him what kind of woman he could be coming home to. It took me months to truly accept that old cliche "if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you..." you aren't supposed to be chasing, be still.