How to handle H in separate room

[inpain_dup1]

Oh Xuesheng how I wish I had read your post before today! I have messed up BIG style and I mean BIIIIGGGG.

On Saturday we got a takeaway and DVD (H's suggestion). Everything was going great until H came to sit next to me on settee to share "film food". It just made me want to lay on him like the old days or cuddle up or kiss and when the film finished he just stared intently at the TV and said nothing. After about half an hour I got up and he asked why I was upset and I flipped out saying that I wanted to kiss and cuddle and it was obvious he wanted none of it. He said its not that he didn't want to he doesn't think its right in our situation because it would confuse things.

I get more upset and he asked if I could write a list of what I would expect if he moved back in. He then said he'd like to sleep in single bed for the night to see if it made him feel anything different about situation. So he did. I cried buckets into my pillow for about 2 hours. He had to get up early for work and as I was awake I popped in to wake him which he thanked me for. I got back in bed and he came in, sat on bed, stroked my hair and kissed my forehead and told me to try to sleep. I had written the list he asked for during the night and he took it away with him. He left saying see you later.

He didn't come round and I needed car so I rang to see if I could get it and he was still at work (by choice). I was taking S out and he asked me to get some milk for him. I dropped it off later and he said I needed to just back off a bit and he needed to think and kissed me on forehead again.

So today my first mistake was to txt asking what he meant by back off because seemed bit harsh. He said he wants me to not get upset when he leaves when we've had a good day together because he is happy when I'm happy and when I'm upset he can't think. I asked him why he can't think when I'm upset and that if he liked it when I was happy why didn't he make me permanently happy (2nd mistake). He didn't reply and a couple hours later I rang him to see if he was OK and he said he was. I took S to a playgroup this afternoon and as I was walking back H pulled up at side of road - he had left work early. He said he was going to town and did I need anything. He sounded really stroppy. I asked what was wrong and he blew up saying he'd got a headache and he was sick of questions questions and felt like his head was going to explode and drove off. I sent txt apologising for annoying him and asked if he wanted to chill out with me tonight and watch a comedy. He sent me a text I didn't understand and I ended up going round to see him (MASSIVE MISTAKE) He said he just felt S@*% and it wasn't necessarily to do with us and I need to give him space and leave him alone. He was looking at me like he hated me. He hasn't looked at me like that for 5 weeks. (I think I've undone all the baby steps I had achieved) I'm petrified he will want a D now.

While I have been typing he's just sent me a txt saying:
"all the stress has just come down on me today thats it not one thing just stress ok. Night night, speak tomorrow.

I think I need to act happy, not ask questions and leave him alone.