I know it's really really tough. Been there. My W slowly moved back in over the course of about 6 months.
I really like the "tempting a rabbit to eat from your garden" analogy. There was a great thread on it once.
Basically your H is the scared little rabbit. Wants to come close but any sudden movement from you is gonna send him running. You must go about your way and act almost indifferent.
No R talks No Pushing it
Nothing.
Just do your thing
GAL
The less you seem to be fretting and worrying and all that stuff the faster he'll come back.
Just remember every sudden move you make (R talks) will send him running and you have to start over again.
It's really really hard. The thing you want the most, well, don't even think about it. Act as if your not concerned. Friendly and loving buut not anxious.
There's an Anais Nin qoute which says something to the effect of
"anxiety is the greatest killer of love. The lover wants to help but feels like he's trying to save a drowning person and just might drown himself"
That's not the exact qoute but the idea. Thrash around too much and he'll back off. Remain calm and he'll come closer.
Hardest thing I've ever done in my life but it can be done.
