How to handle H in separate room

[inpain_dup1]

Thank you for your replies you are all so helpful. I'm trying to say to myself over and over to just be grateful if he moves back in - it's one step nearer. Hearing that other people's "reunions" have been similar makes me feel better.

I have cleared the spare room this afternoon just in case and H also rang to say he's arranged for his Mum to look after S so we can go get a bed. (he keeps saying it's for S but when he first mentioned it a week ago I said that I couldn't put S in it if he was going to end up wanting it because S is only 2 and wouldn't understand and he did agree) I now know what everyone means by aliens on these boards!!! They really are talking and thinking in a different language!

My mission: to work on my patience (I really need to crack this or I'm going to fail aren't I?)