How to handle H in separate room

[cat03]

I didn't realise that maybe he would come back before feeling that he loves me

He could still love you but he needs space, you want him to pick up where he left off before he left, it isnt' reasonable, he isnt' ready. My H and I sleep together, but he is still finding his feelings for me. Respect your H's decision, he wants to connect w/you but at this moment he's also doing soul searching.

You both need to reconnect and go back to that stage where you were friends first, I'm guilty of rushing my H into being that man that was crazy for me, by rushing him I actually push him away. Give him his space, take his cues, for the time being I'd just stay away from the spare room. When he is ready he isn't going to need the spare room,he'll come to you.

Haven't read ur story, but in my case my H was still depressed and torn about the failed A, wasn't affectionate w/me at all, still not as much as I want him to. But I started slowly, now and then would hold his hand, he'd take it, or I'd hug him for a bit when we'd watch a movie, would kiss him on the lips good night, eventually I initiated sex and he'd respond (that's another whole enchilada) no need to withold your affection if he isn't as affectionate as you want him to be right now, give him time oK? good luck! it's a great step that he wants to move back