just gettin started on my life w/o H

[ForPeanut]

I think they are just so into what they want and need that it is hard for them to see that the world isn't against them and they have done these things to themselves. I am sure that your H has felt that you were getting closer too but instead of making him feel good, it scared him. He has convinced himself that your life together was why he has done what he has. Any sign that he has made the wrong choices lately is like an attack on what he sees as the way his life should be. Whacked out for sure but understandable if you try to think like him for a bit. Just like the whole "cheating on ow w/us" theory I have. Their thinking is backwards because of the situation they have created for themselves. Easy to say but tough to do... try to see his latest behavior as a sign that he at least is aware of his feelings and the fact that he is pursuing you to make arrangements and wanting to spend time with S at all is still positive. Even if his priorities are still backwards. He has shown signs that he already wants to make changes in his new life with the apartment switching idea and hot and cold with ow. Just another dip on the rollercoaster that has become our life. You are doing fantastic though and just think of all the wonderful people that are there for you. Even your MIL is a cheerleader for you. I am on your team!
I will try to give you a call one night this week. Probably after 7 sometime. Hang in there!
~T