just gettin started on my life w/o H

[ForPeanut]

All I can say is YAY!!! Things are sounding pretty good right now for you! That bit of relationship temperature checking that you are able to do with the R of OW and your H is obviously doing good things for you. My only word of caution is that even though things are looking great, keep your expectations of him low. Visualizing the three of you together though is great! That is what pipeliners_wife has always told me to try to do. (I really struggle with it, it usually makes me sad rather than empowered.) If you can do it though, I think that is a very good sign. I would be very nervous about the overnight too. However, if you show your H that you trust him with your S, it may just be one more step and point for you. However, be careful, just like anything he does right now could affect custody if it becomes an issue in the future, the same holds for us too. If you show that you trust him to take S overnight now, a judge may be more likely to grant him overnights as a part of your arrangement. Trust me, I see both ways and have to apologize because my sitch is diff, I know, but right now, my guards are up so I just think of these things. Who knows, hopefully, you won't even have to worry about any of that.

I hope you have a good day today! Thanks for always checking in on me. I will keep you updated and please do the same!
~T