just gettin started on my life w/o H

[ForPeanut]

Ugh! How has it been since the funeral? Has he called, stopped by etc or is he still at the beach? When does his sister go home or does she live nearby? She may be feeling for him because she is in a similar crisis situation in her life right now and is living through him so to speak. It's a stretch but might explain why she is reaching out to him right now. Or maybe his behavior lately just makes her feel better about her behavior with you and the rest of the family. Lots of questions and not many answers right now. Maybe your MIL could give some insight? I guess it isn't super important what your H and his sis have come to terms with together but maybe he is just latching on to the family he has that is standing by him. Natural I guess. We all want to be near the ones "on our side".

As for lying about the A to others, obviously just trying to cover his tracks. Anyone that really matters already knows that isn't true. I wouldn't waste much effort on trying to clear it up. If it is with family, maybe your MIL could help you debunk the myth quickly. Gossip spreads fast in most families. You just have to be careful not to talk down too much about your H with his family or they might decide that you are the evil one. (obviously not true but they won't care) I was worried about that with my inlaws and my locking H out but I talked with my MIL before he did about it and was able to explain myself. Probably saved my R w/her because of it. Just let her know you are concerned that you and your son will lose your R with the family if blame gets unfairly shifted to you.

Let me know what is up! ~T