just gettin started on my life w/o H

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but don't want to gets my hopes of the future too far up!

Yes, that's pretty much what you should be doing, don't keep your hopes up, dont LOOSE hope, just dont' expect much of him.

Also, dont' read too much into the ring, it could/could not mean anything, don't make a whole story about something he prob didnt' think much off, could be he just put it there thoughtlessly. I honeslty don't want to burst your bubble, but I've been there and done that.

They all get those moments in which for a few secs they act half human, next week he could be back to his sarcastic standoffish self, please remember that.
2 or 3 wks after he left he actually called once and wonder where was I, what was i thinking. Then next week, blam! back to the zombie who wouldn't even look at me.

My H also would tell me "too much has happened, how can I face everyone after all this?" luckily I'd kept the separation from my family, only 2 people knew. I found myself telling him this over and over again throught the months he was away "it will be hard work, but we can rebuild our M, (he's ask me why I wanted him back) I love you, it would be worth to work on it, there is so much to gain if you want to come back and so much too loose" mind you, I'd only talk R when he'd bring it up.

About the appt and the stuff he bought, again, when they are in MLC they dont' think twice about throwing money on such things, my H shared a room on an appt but all his money went on expensive outings, jewelry, a very expesive phone w/a contract (as if he'd plan to have it forever) etc etc.
Don't mention his stuff or any other thing about his purchases, you're bound to get more sarcastic responses and would lead nowhere, he'll just feel smug that he is "living it up" now.