The session yesterday was so interesting. There are times when I catch a glimpse of my bf's soul, and he is just a pure, shining, innocent.... like Gawain in the Arthurian legend. He really doesn't have any malice in him-- all of his anger and negative stuff is purely defensive. When he was telling us about this, he was so clean and clear... you might almost say "noble." There was no color, no blaming, no seeing his mom through rose-colored glasses, but no condemning of her either. It's a fine line to walk-- one that I am not able to. When I think of my own family issues, I'm not able to view them dispassionately, but he is. My hat's off to him for this.
When I heard the part about his mom and the shower, it was all I could do to be civil to her when I saw her later in the evening.
I don't know if I ever told the story that she stopped beating him when he was about 17 and she wouldn't stop one day and he decked her. They went into therapy together and she quit it.
