Good luck to you. Your thread has been helpful to me. I can relate. Unfortunately my H isn't wanting to work on our M and even though the MOW w/ kids is getting a D and they say the R is over, I know we are arguing semantics b/c they still have an emotional attachment.
Like you, my H and the OW work together. Is it possible for your H to change jobs? How are you going to deal with that? Good luck! Julie