Hi, When my H was in the full aspect of his A,i did not know about it.I felt something was wrong,just had no answers.He never left home and went to work.He had A with co-worker.I am really not sure how long it lasted,but when he was over it i could tell because he started "coming" back to me.I always asked him if he was having an A,and he denied it.One day the OW's H called me and i found out and confronted H.He gave it all up then,and begged for forgivness and wanted to work on M.The OW lost her job,so she was out of the picture.It was a long road,i asked H to leave a time or maybe two.I always told him he could come back ,i was weak.I decided we needed a C and he agreed and we went and worked on M.It took about a year for me to feel like we might make it. I know how it feels when you have no control over them.My H didn't leave me,but emotionally he did. -Marriage is good now.We communicate much better.We know when we have a problem to sit down and discuss it. -I believe in your situation you just have to let him know that you really mean it when you tell him it's you or OW.Everyones sit. is different and it is hard,but this can't keep going on.As they say,GAL,even if he shows up,do for you and your kids.Be nice but not a maid.Hope things get better for you and he really is done w/OW for GOOD.God Bless,K
