Pouring all my garbage out here is definately helping me. I've just been reading JM's old posts on his sitch and that has really helped as well.
What is frustrating me right now is that your H is where I was 3-4 weeks ago, and I can't talk to him. I'd like to.
He keeps running back to you because he loves you. He misses his family, and he realizes that his fling, regardless of what he thought it was when it started. was just that... a fling. And that is a bitter pill for him to swallow.. he regrets what he has done. But where the real pain comes in is that he hurt you for it. He said things he didn't really mean, because he was so delusional. What he is struggling with now is, "how could I have been so wrong?" How could I do this? Then, you have to consider the OW... I know I know.. F Her! but listen.. What is her sitch? Is she M? is He the OM? If so, you can bet that he's getting an extra dose of guilt. Esp, if she is a WAW. OR worse a WAW W/K(s). But what I'd really like to tell him is let her go.. Regardless of what happens b/w U2.. she is trouble he dosn't need. Face it, she has commitment issues, and so does he. That is a recipe for disaster. The fairytale romance won't survive that fact. They never do. And.. that what he really needs to spend his energy on is rekindling the romance that he feels lost with the woman that will stick by him through thick and thin.
