Quote: Why was it so hard to stay away from the OW? She tempted me. I'm going to put this bluntly. Sex is a powerful drug, men are weak and certain (less scrupulous) women know how to use that. Especailly one that is desperate. recently divorced, in the proccess or otherwise on the rebound.. I'm not saying that I was the victim.. All I am saying is that I was caught up in the "fantasy-land".
I hear what you're saying, and I do beleive this was definately one piece of it. It seems that she is every guy's fantasy... loves sports, plays pool and golf and apparently is good in bed. Now when you're with the same person for 13 years and married 7 with two young kids, let's face it... sex often becomes very routine. I get it. So that's one of the things we agreed to work on when he first came back. So, we worked on it and made great progress. But still, she has a hold on him. I just don't understand it... i just don't.
He is DEFINATELY addicted... either that or he's really in love with her and can't live without her. But if that was the case, why has he tried so many times to come back to me. This sucks and i'm so sick of it.
Anyway, it's great to get your perspective. we all go running to JM with these questions. Now we have another resource (lucky you!).
