Quote: think every time they go back it is like starting over from square one.
I'm not sure I agree with this. I think it's possible that each time they go back, they remember once again why they left OW to begin with.
In my case, everytime I "let him go" to be with her, he seems to come back saying that he wants the M. My H's time periods have been less. Like I said, first it was 1 month. Then 2 months. Now he's been "back" with me since May, but has gone to her a day here a day there. Each time after spending a day or two with OW, he comes back and says he wants to wokr on the M. I always "let him go" to be with her, and he comes back on his own. I don't force him and I don't threaten him.
So, the question is... is it part of the process? My MC says yes... that sometimes they go back and forth in order to straighten out in their own heads what is going on. Sometimes it is necessary to see it through with OW to get thorugh it. But when does that end?
