I think every time they go back it is like starting over from square one. Only you can decide how much you are willing to take. That is the big problem and really prevents the relationship from ever being healthy...I am sure you are on constant guard and are nervous to ever make him upset because he may bolt at any time.

I am in the same situation...we are hopefully just about to enter the second break...the first lasted less than a week. I wish I knew how to get past this stage...it is very hard to work on a marriage when your S is in the state of any time they get upset they are bolting. Fixing a broken marriage is hard work and there are going to be some upset feelings and hard times.

"Friendship is like peeing your pants: everyone can see it, but only you can feel the true warmth."