Quote: You are dealing with a woman whose cheese is not stacked properly on her cracker right now (meaning no disrespect), so you do what you have to do to get through the days and nights until there is some resolution in your sitch, IMHO.
But, guys, this is the point: the endless catering and doing what you have to do to get "through" the situation is not going to get you and your children out of it in any healthy way.
There is a point where a person's "adapting" to a situation becomes extremely unhealthy for their kids. That's why I strongly recommended that Muddle take an hour to meditate on his son.
I think Muddle's wife is sick in a serious way, and I'm not saying he needs to get mad at her and engender a blow out, and I'm not saying she can't heal, but I am saying that I think he does need to have a very frank discussion with her and say, "Look, you are unable to care for our son in even the most basic way right now. You can't even get off the couch and go get him when he as a little stomach bug at school because you are so immobilized by depression, anxiety, etc. You need to get help and ¡pronto! This is not normal. Our relationship and what happens to it is one thing; or son is another. We need to take care of him regardless."
I don't mean to be a voice of reason from the opposite perspective, I just think it's a little easy to get swamped by the momentum of these boards and get lost in the surreality of the situation you are living unless you have some truly healthy "outside" contact.
