GH, glad you're stopping in. I was a bit concerned that now that you're piecing we'd be out of sight out of mind. I think you're right on about that dynamic - in fact the other day my W said to me "how come you're nice to me only when I'm feeling down?" I was taken aback a bit because I thought "I'm always nice" but I think the dynamic is there. I see her vulnerability and want to be there for her. I need to be far more conscious of keeping my distance when she's feeling down. I noticed the other day shortly after she said that that I was in a sense rewarding her for feeling weak and down by trying to comfort her. So then the next logical step is to say I was doing that on purpose because I like to see her down and in a low place. I don't, but my actions can be perceived that way. So, my next task is to really be aware of this. I need to jump at the opportunity when it presents itself by doing less, if anything at all.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
