You raise a good point. I believe we do in a way re-wrie all of the good. Maybe not re-write it to an extent but I believe we try and forget about all of the bad because we are in a state of denial. Denial that we caused or believe that this is even happening. But to a point the love that we were recieving from our S's is currently hidden behind whatever they believe that we did to cause their pain. Everytime we push we bring that pain back up to the front of their memories again and they believe they are doing the correct thing. I finally noticed that after my last break down. The W was tarting to call and check up on me she says. then I had a break down because I saw her at the OM's house...I know, I know, it is not about the OM but that does add a huge element to the sitch. I always told the W that I would not have a problem giving her her space if he was not in the picture... Oh well. Just my 2 cents.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
