Yes, we're all still trying to control our situation. If I just do this or that then the pot of gold will be at the end of the rainbow. Part of DBing is indeed letting go, making plans to better ourselves and doing interventions that may make a dif. but that don't control out minds and lives (if that makes sense). Somehow the detachment part is difficult because I think we mistake detachment with not feeling love anymore. If I detach maybe I won't love her anymore. It's a difficult concept to absorb.
