The how would you handle the situation without the affair? It is a good question. It is often something I think about in my situation. My W often contends that her unhappiness and leaving has nothing to do with the A. I contend that if the A was not in the picture I think I could accept us being separated and working on our marriage from a distance. The A is really the big problem for me...it is what makes me lose my mind. I think I would be far more respecting and have a lot more will to work on our marriage if there was no A.
I think we are in similar situations in our relationships...I really feel if I DB and give my wife some space and just really try I could win her back but then part of me does not know if I really want that? Do I want her back...will she cheat again...will she ever truly be happy with me...can we ever get past the hurt we have caused each other? Am I better off just trying to start new with someone else? Is the marriage worth saving? I do still love her...but I need her to give me love back...
"Friendship is like peeing your pants: everyone can see it, but only you can feel the true warmth."
