I think on some level, she will recognize your attempts to be caring and loving, but it just may not be now or in the near future. She's so caught up in herself and her own twisted interpretations that nothing gets in on the conscious level but deep inside, I believe it's there. That kept me going in my sitch sometimes, no matter how much my W did not acknowledge my gestures etc I had faith (and still do) that somewhere they lie inside her maybe to be discovered on another day, at another time. Who knows. When love goes in it must come back out in some way, that's my theory anyway. Today, you live to make yourself a better person, Muddle (and you seem pretty damn good already). That's all you can do.
