Quote: They expect the relationship to do something for you rather than it being a safe place where you can be yourself and improve yourself and realize yourself.
Shouldn't a R be both? Shhouldn't expect that someone shows you that they love you instead of just being able to accept that it is a safe place. I think this is what got me into my sitch. The W and I quit sharing and loving each other because we never thought anything could come between us and evetually we fell apart. Basically we took everything for granted and pushed each other away. I have accepted my faults and appologized for them but she is not really taking any blame because she is having fun in her fantasy world that she has created for herself. I mean right now she gets the best of both worlds...A night in shinning armor in the OM and the a great father that makes sure all of the bills are paid for her. No matter what I feel. That is why I am just trying to find my oldself and prove to her that there is still love there that we have and that it just needs re-kindled. However it is really hard to do when there is another person filling the needs that I so desperately want to fill again. All I need is a chance to prove myself and then I think we will be able to reconcile. Don't know just my 2 cents.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
