I think good people do try and understand the other parties point of view. In these sitches though sometimes, we as good H's, get too caught up in it. I know myself, I'm at my worst when I spend a great deal of time trying to figure out where my W is at and why. It's a deep dark forest and I've misplaced my flashlight! So stay focused on what you are doing Muddle, she will whine and carry on but the time to figure her out is past, for now anyway. Stay polite and firm. I can't imagine myself handling this situation better than you are right now. Keep us posted.
