Absolutely. Enough is enough. Maybe at some point it will be possible to work out some kind of R, but not now. Your W has become an abuser and there is no working things out now. Physical abuse just escalates and it is ALWAYS blamed on the abused partner. It is then often followed by sincere apologies. Her remarks about you making her do this is textbook. She has moved from emotional abuse to physcial now, it is escalating. Do what you have to, Muddle, just get her out quickly as possible. If she gets the help she needs then maybe one day there is hope. But that day is not today. You've done enough, it's over. The safety of all involved is now the priority. Let us know how you're doing, we'll be here.
PS don't forget the lawyer, you might want to seriously look at your position and rights around custody. Sorry, wish I could lighten your dark cloud here but whatisis, tonite anyway.
