Absolutely right, Muddle. My W not only expects I feed her but that I know when she needs fed and what she wants to eat and how much! It's totally out there, I know. It's hard for us not to "feed" into it sometimes. Why do we? Because we are good, caring H's wanting to do our part in the R. It's easy to lose sight of the fact that the other person isn't doing much of anything because we're so busy working our butts off to comply. Our S's are out screwing around and that is their contribution! My point to my W was just what you said basically, "I am not a mindreader, and never will be" I told her "sometimes I may know what you need but other times I'll need to be told" That was not acceptable and this is why, in her words, she went elsewhere to meet her needs. So in a way its dealing with a form of insanity, a complete lack of any connection with the real world of R's. Her OP can be so attentive because the real world has no bearing on their R together. So weird, anyway I won't rant on your thread any longer! I'm moving on, maybe to bed for a few winks before the kids get home. God, I'm bushed today.
into it sometimes. Why do we? Because we are good, caring H's wanting to do our part in the R. It's easy to lose sight of the fact that the other person isn't doing much of anything because we're so busy working our butts off to comply. Our S's are out screwing around and that is their contribution! My point to my W was just what you said basically, "I am not a mindreader, and never will be" I told her "sometimes I may know what you need but other times I'll need to be told" That was not acceptable and this is why, in her words, she went elsewhere to meet her needs. So in a way its dealing with a form of insanity, a complete lack of any connection with the real world of R's. Her OP can be so attentive because the real world has no bearing on their R together. So weird, anyway I won't rant on your thread any longer! I'm moving on, maybe to bed for a few winks before the kids get home. God, I'm bushed today. 
