The physical violence aspect really makes it imperative that you back off. Leaving is probably the best option for all involved at this point. No more alcohol, Muddle! Not that you are a violent person but the booze helped you get into a position where you were no longer able to just walk away. The previous poster is right too. My lawyer told me that even the slightest brush going through the door can result in one S barring the other legally from access to the home. Get up, go to work, come home, NO HOME! Be careful now. Your W is not a well person and there is no reasoning ability right now. Her moods dictate her actions. See the lawyer, for you and your son. P.S. I also want to thank you for taking the time to post on my thread, with what you are going through that means alot to me.