wonder, no need to be annoyed about your lost post, you're first post was really great. IMHO when dealing with an mlc spouse who's gone into space big time, the most important thing to do is take care of one's self. Our own actions are the only thing that we are in control of, and even with that there is no wrong or right answer because everyone's situation is very different. Glad you took the time to post a very good thread.
