Iwondertooo Yes, I can relate to what you are saying. In fact we had a previous thread going which discussed that a) MLCs differ in severity, possibly in part depending on how damanged the person is; b) MLCs differ in length of time c) some of what we hear about may not be MLC, or only part MLC
Also MLC is 'all about me' we are not really the issue or problem, and may need to change very little. In fact they may value our stability. There is good advie in the resource section which suggests that you change only what you want to change. I don't think 'classic' DB really works for MLC, because you are dealing with someone irrational and crazy. Some things you do and say go in, but others don't. I think DB does start to work when they are coming out of the crisis, and becoming saner.
However, I certainly think that the 'Don't cry, plead and beg' is true, and so is getting a life.
