I think what you have said is wonderful and much needed, and I appreciate the time and thought that went into your post.
I have many times been frozen, unable to do anything, for fear I would "DB wrong". Be a friend, go dark, act "as if"--I would twist myself in knots trying to figure out how to do all that simultaneously. Especially when my preference was to take a ball bat to his head. (Yeah, I at least figured out that was not "good DB'ing".)
Same for the financial settlement issue. Have in the past dreaded sending my counter, knowing what sort of negative reaction I would get. But I am past that now. Know, like everything else, I have to do that for me.
Again, thank you for your wise words, and taking the time to monitor this board and share when you think something needs to be said.
