I don't struggle with it really...once the truth of our sitch was revealed and my wife are being honest with each other, that's still worth more to me than almost anything else.
It's painful, but honest, and when it is painful I rely on God to help me deal with the pain...don't need any solutions that aren't really solutions anymore.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'