I know some women will look the other way and say it is "normal"....or that they don't mind because it isn't real... I still feel it is demeaning....pretty soon it takes more and more to excite them....and fantasy is NOT REAL LIFE... we live in a real world here, act like it!... My biggest objection comes from the mere fact that most men find the need to hide it....if it has to be hidden it isn't good for their conscience....they begin seering it so that pretty soon they can rationalize other things too...so if they hide it, wouldn't that be cheating???...to me it is... As to how to handle this subject with dignity and get your point across....I am not sure....but I don't believe you can just pretend that it isn't happening.... If he is unhappy and using this as an escape then you need to get him to talk to you....nothing will be fixed by virtual fantasy....things get fixed by being real and facing the problems....working on them together....no secrets or hiding... I wish you the best
