Ohhhh, that sounds familiar. I got the bomb last year in or around July and was asked to move out. I did in mid August. For the first time in my life I really started to take care of myself and WAW noticed. In September (late) we talked about getting back together (she invited me back). Two weeks later, she got cold feet. A month and a half later, the same thing happened - but the cold feet this time was because she had met someone else. Then began the journey to hell and back.
Looking back however, I saw that her cold feet of the fall of last year was because I would become needy and stop focusing on my GAL stuff. Sadly, I didn't get the DR book until late November and found this board (Newcomers) shortly thereafter.
I was able to bust my divorce - I'm home now (since end of May) but it is a constant work in process and I continue to employ DR/DB techniques...because *I* chose to become the person that *I* wanted to be. Don't get me wrong, Piecing is probably 3x harder than actually halting the divorce - but I think if you approach it right, it can be very rewarding.
So, I guess the advice I would give is that you continue to DB/DR. You make sure that you are GAL'g - it's important to make your WAH "miss" you - the constant phone calls you H has been making to you (I read your thread over in Newcomers) is evidence that he is missing you. I'd let a few of them go to voicemail. Set yourself some goals on ways that you know would make him realise he is losing the best thing in the world. That is what worked for me (and believe me, I'm way over simplifying).
Nonetheless, what you are doing seems to be working - stick with the program...
Hope that helps a little.
Erik
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
