Re Cine Right now, my interest lies in massage therapy and providing cosmetic services to cancer patients.
That sounds like a good combination of interests.
I know when I was going to physical therapy in 1986, and getting some heat, physical therapy, and traction treatments, I found out the clients sort of spill their guts and talk about what is bothering them emotionally and physically.
One intern said she was surprised how much mental stress some people were in and that she was thinking a third of her job was helping the clients in a counseling mode, and two thirds of her job was physical therapy related.
If you go into massage therapy or the cancer fields, I am sure you will be told many personal and emotional things.
Sometimes, I felt the physical therapist was as important as a counselor, mostly by listening, as their job title skills.
I bet Lil heard several personal stories during some of her massage days.
Maybe H just doesn't possess the vocabulary to express this so it comes out "I put the hurt to you". Cine, some people have their own or group type of vocabulary.
Our daughter's H has a Harley and within the group the wife is affectionately referred to as the "bit*h." As you know, this is usually a derogatory term in the general public.
It seem, in some motorcycle groups, being the bit*h and sitting behind the driver on the bit*h seat, means the couple is emotionally bonded and a pair. My daughter even refers to herself as playing the role of the bit*h and wanting to sit in the bit*h seat. Other times, she wants to drive her own motorcycle because she is one of these people that likes to drive as much as most men.
In your H's case, maybe he is saying he put the hurt on you means he thinks he has pride in his sexual skills. If he doesn't boink you the way you like to be boinked, then it is up to you to let him know if motion "A" is better or worse than motion "B."
I know I ask BB but usually only get an "I don't know" which doesn't help me much.
I want my heart to do back-flips, and various other pleasant sensations happen when my H walks into the room Good goals but how about starting with the pleasant sensations on special occasions, and then build on those good feelings.
This is just one man's POV so take what works for you.
Were you doing some of the "Peace Between the Sheets" activities, or was that someone else?
If so, what part of the activities mean the most to you and why. I haven't read the book but get the general concept.
BB likes the back rubs w/o the sex. Sometimes I wonder if PBTS activities are moving us in the same direction or am I just a better H in BB's eyes but I am more frustrated and caving in to her wants, in my mind. Just wondering about how much PBTS is working for people.
