The lighting o' the lightbulbs

[cinemanymph]

Lou,

I know that this isn't reflected in my posts, but people often feel compelled to tell me their deep dark secrets. I honor them by listening. Outside of danger to self or others, I don't discuss their revelations with others.

I went into social work. I felt if I could help other people, it would be good for them and it would heal a fundamental wound within me.

I put my studies on the back burner to raise my children. At some point, I do plan on going back into a helping career of some sort. Right now, my interest lies in massage therapy and providing cosmetic services to cancer patients.

Are you sure he isn't just saying he performed a good sex act, one that you should find him hot/a good, like he is saying he is a skilled lover or he is a man that women want in bed.

Thanks for this POV, Lou. You may be hitting paydirt here. Maybe H just doesn't possess the vocabulary to express this so it comes out "I put the hurt to you". I am planning on putting HPs suggestion into action and see what happens.

Some people avoid widows widowers because they don't know what to do or say.

You are right about this and have me wondering if this is actually the case with my H.

I want my heart to do backflips, and various other pleasant sensations happen when my H walks into the room. I just don't know how to make that happen. It's not a matter of getting something back that we once had, it's a matter of creating something that never existed.

Many thanks for your input, Lou.