Re cine
No, Lou, I think that you are more reflective.
So, maybe that "Women's Issues" class and those Co-Dependency books did some good. Just kidding around Cine.

I used to have my opinions and think what is wrong with some people. The soc/Psychology/communications classes and meeting men and women that had traumatic events take place in their lives, opened me up to different ways of thinking and to be able to see the different sides to people.

One class had 3 women that were raped, another class had 2 women whose H would let then talk to anyone unless the h was present, another class had 2 lesbians and 1 gay guy, and of course several guys in different classes with back, joint, and arm problems that caused them to lose jobs, along with a raft of recovering alcoholics and wheelchair users.

Everyone told their story in class, the coffee shop, or some one-on-one in the library doing research work. Then there was all the stuff I heard working at the group home. So, yes I had an opportunity to listen and maybe learn to be reflective and considerate.

H walks around all puffed up after a good number of our sexual encounters talking about how he "put the hurt" to me. It's as if he views it as a sporting event with at winner and a loser.
As in he wins, she loses???????? Is this what your H really wants, really feels. Are you sure he isn't just saying he performed a good sex act, one that you should find him hot/a good, like he is saying he is a skilled lover or he is a man that women want in bed.

about how he "put the hurt" to me Gee, I can't imagine that. I feel guilty that BB doesn't get as much out of sex as I do.

No, H will not read/talk to anyone about sexual abuse. It makes me suspect that he may have his own issues.
Some people don't want to look at the troubled side of life. Some people avoid widows widowers because they don't know what to do or say. I think Honeypot didn't want to touch hair in drains at one time.

My point is, some subjects are very uncomfortable to think about and discuss openly. Look at some of the posts that refer to genitals as "down there."

I have to get back to work cine. Just wanted to let you know you have support here on the forum.

Lou