Quote: Re Corri There are only crossed wires and men with entitlement issues... Corri, I assume by crossed wires you are referring to women (in this case some of the difficulties and traumas cine has experienced) and/or general male and female relationship issues.
I hope you didn't mean all men have entitlement issues. Well now that you said something, yes I have entitlement issues. I think they are called things that turn me on like having a willing partner that can have some fun/enjoyment with me if and when we have sex. Not wanting to feel or be told, some of the things I do or want are not appreciated or are inappropriate. But I don't think that is what you are talking about in this case.
Actually, Lou, I was specifically referring to Cine and CeMar with that comment. I saw a very insensitive remark to Cine's issues by CeMar, a man whom I think is BURIED in entitlement... and pain. Because he thinks he has no choices.
I don't really bother to elaborate with CeMar anymore. I just throw out comments without care if he figures them out or not, sometimes. That makes me pretty insensitive, too, doesn't it? Pot calling the kettle black kind of thing.
But that is how it goes. When we feel we have no choice, when we feel powerless... that is exactly what we are.
You are not powerless, Lou. Neither is Hairdog, or any other person here. We just all, for our own reasons, limit our own choices, by our own CHOICE. And then we get pissed at our spouses for it.
I'm not pointing fingers here, believe me. I've done it, too, and I continue to do it, and hopefully, given that I consider myself a pretty smart women, I'll bust my own azz for it and get over myself.
Cine has it right. When we blame others for our behaviors, you remove all power, all choice. It really is as simple as that. Facing the fear and the doubt, and whatever lies below it is really hard. Far easier to continue to blame.
God, it sucks stepping up to the plate. But there you go. That's what life is. Stepping up.
