Re Cemar Then the complexities of life move in and the women's natural lose of libido as she ages. So everyday turns into once a week, and once a week turns into once a month, and only gets worse. So that expectation that the man is supposed to have of getting it tomorrow goes right out the window. Under those conditions, the mans confidence is going to be replaced by insecurity and then resentment
Cemar, I see that pattern too. I especially see/feel the replaced by insecurity and then resentment part right now. FWIW to anyone reading this thread as just information into some male's mind.
I don't agree with you that a person always have to feel/know that you are somehow less of a man. I don't always feel less of a man, but do experience the frustrations because of my morally limited ways to express my sexuality, and wanting to keep things a float with in the M. I can say I have been down many times.
Re cinemanymph If my H's masculinity is damaged, it isn't because of my LD, it is because he never had a good sense of his masculinity to begin with. Cine, if he never had a "GOOD" sense of his masculinity to begin with, that it is a problem I have dealt with as a younger person. For a long time I was OK, and now with more R problems, the sense of masculinity I had is not working as well as it used to.
I see some of this lack of masculinity in some (not all) of Chrom's inner thinking's as he posts them. I am just saying this "damaged male masculinity" thing might be more common than some people and some men are willing to admit.
I "try" to imagine what it might feel like to be some of the posters or some of the SO's of the posters and relate my experiences to shed some light on the subject. I don't know if I succeed in that department very well.
Re Corri There are only crossed wires and men with entitlement issues... Corri, I assume by crossed wires you are referring to women (in this case some of the difficulties and traumas cine has experienced) and/or general male and female relationship issues.
I hope you didn't mean all men have entitlement issues. Well now that you said something, yes I have entitlement issues. I think they are called things that turn me on like having a willing partner that can have some fun/enjoyment with me if and when we have sex. Not wanting to feel or be told, some of the things I do or want are not appreciated or are inappropriate. But I don't think that is what you are talking about in this case.
Re cine You name them, I blamed them. Putting all my energy into blaming everyone for my problems robbed me of the power to do anything Way to go cinemanymph. I think many people get to this point.
Like so many other posters, I see what I don't like in the R more than I see what power or influence I still have. It is really hard work sometimes finding what works and building on those items.
I am going to tell him about my realization and see where things go from there. I'm scared and excited. Cine, my best wishes will be with you and your H. I am pulling for both of you.
