The lighting o' the lightbulbs

[Burgbud]

The last time my H and I ML, a bunch of lightbulbs went off for me. My H does not desire me!

Back up the bus. Are you sure your H doesn't desire you? Did he tell you that directly? If not, what is your proof of his lack of desire for you?

He may well be engaging in orgasm-centered love making and that may well cause problems for you, but there is more than one possible explanation for why he would do that.