Is there any merit in what she said, even though it was said meanly? Are there household chores that are your responsibility that aren't handled consistantly?
yes, there is a LOT of merit to it and I apologized for every situation that I was "falling behind" on - it's just hard to go from two weeks of being alone to full speed family member mode. I felt like I needed to make up for two weeks of not being here and she was right there on my back making sure I was pulling my weight.
We had many discussions about this and she assured me that she did not feel that way and was only "getting on me" in an abrasive way to get through some issues and was sorry she was doing it...
