Quote: So, I know it doesn't help when I set up these scenarios, but that is pretty much the way it played out... not only that, but the first 36 hours were full of stabbing statements like "the ice cube tray never ran empty while you were away" or "the trash was taken out EVERY day while you were gone..."
Is there any merit in what she said, even though it was said meanly? Are there household chores that are your responsibility that aren't handled consistantly?
Quote: 1. we haven't gotten along well since I got home and that does not make me feel close to her
2. she is very selfish in bed - I do all the work, so when I'm not 100% horny it is real hard to get ME and HER in the mood, conduct the entire event to her liking, etc...
3. she has not TOLD me she was in the mood, she has not WINKED, HINTED, ANYTHING - she is asking me to put my neck out on her sexual chopping block based on the simple fact that she has been pleasant to be around and is going to bed 5 MINUTES before her normal bedtime.
4. she told me a month ago that I do not need to worry about her sexual needs - she is an adult and is capable of asking / initiating if she has the desire
5. lately, she has insisted on having sex without birth control - she says "I'm not going to get pregnant" her only reasoning being the fact that she is over 40. We have had the dicussion a dozen times - she would not be sad one bit if we had more children - I am quite happy with the two we have and have no desire to go back to changing diapers. I feel that her manipulating me to have sex without a condom is her version of russian roulette in which she can only win. As such, it makes me resistant to have sex with her because I know we are going to get to that debate each time now.
Geek, you need to gird your loins and tell your wife all of the above. When you find yourself having conversations in your head in response to your spouse without ever verbalizing them - you increase your misery and decrease any opportunity for intimacy.
