The Little Black Book

[runningoutoftime]

Speaking of ow... you guys would probably freak out, but I'm actually using some of her stuff!!

LOL!!!!!! That is soooo funny!!! Gosh, I kind of like this OW bashing in cyberspace. It's a nice way to get all the ugliness out without doing something stupid (which I have a bad tendency to do!).

Using OWs stuff sounds like healthy "revenge" to me.

I was really surprised OW wasn't as attractive as I imagined. She too had no boobs. I might be skinnier than her (and my husband is very attracted to skinny women), but I'm naturally very curvy (kind of unusual for a thin gal... the eastern european genes). Also, my husband likes blonds. I'm more blond than her and I have really full lips. She has thin fish lips!!!! Yech!!!

Weirdly, I do have to admit, she looks a little like me. Isn't that strange!!!? (But I'd say an ugly version of me! I'd be the "after" photo of an extreme makeover of her!!!! Hee hee....

Thanks for the little vent session. I'm kind of glad to see I'm not the only one that sometimes feels a need to bash OW. Hopefully by doing this I will eventually be able to boot her out of my mind (and out of the bed! )

In time I'm sure I'll be so sick of the subject I'll be ready to move on. Unfortunately, at this time, the anger is still pretty strong.

[brandnewday]

I am also reading that book.
I read it years ago and didn't take it seriously
I discussed some of the stuff with my H and he confirmed many of the things Dr.Laura said.
I cringed....it wouldn't have been that hard to do those things...but I am definately doing them now.

[BethJ]

That must be the ONLY relationship book I have not read. I will get my hands on it soon.

My mental image of my H's OW was so off. It got so bad that I imagined this one woman who works at the Curves I go to looked just like her, and she was very attractive. I hated this poor innocent woman and could barely talk to her. When my snooping finally paid off in a photo, I was so relieved I almost kissed it. She is not ANYTHING special. My H had several times told me I am much more attractive than her, that she is "thick around the middle" and I thought they were more lies designed to protect me. Now I feel so much better, so...superior. I am sick, really!

Thank you for this thread. I smiled my whole way through the last few pages.

BethJ

[verycrazy]

I found a box the ow made, decorated with things for their future, and their "date" on it, downstairs where he rides his exercise bike. Until the day he finally took the nasty-smelling lacquered thing away, I would go down there and spit in it. Then I broke the catch on it and accidentally dropped it on the floor.

I also saw where someone referred to the ow as the "septic tank" where the grass is supposed to be greener.

I also found a book someone had given him called the divorced dad, and I took it to a nearby town, tore the covers off it and threw it away in a gas station trash can.

I also found some cologne I think she gave him, because he keeps their cards and letters in the box it came in, so I am wondering if there is some way to inject something really stinky into the bottle to make it smell REALLY good if he ever decides to use it again. By the way it is called "realities" cologne.
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[cat03]

nah, don't drag the ol' corpse of the A around w/you, the stink will stick w/you.

Toss the bottle and good riddance, us women place a WHOLE lot more importance on things than men do, the night I found the motherload of letters and picts I had H toss all of them into the fire, there was one framed pict, him, being his practical self, took the picts out to get rid of it but since the frame was to his eyes, perfectly usable, he left it on our bedroom.

To me the frame was diseased ridden, I ended up breaking it by accident, and tossed it. He had no attachment to it at all, but to me it was filthy.

Don't bother yourself anymore w/that crap honey, get rid of it ALL

[runningoutoftime]

My mental image of my H's OW was so off. It got so bad that I imagined this one woman who works at the Curves I go to looked just like her, and she was very attractive. I hated this poor innocent woman and could barely talk to her.

OMG!!!! I did something kind of similar. There's this one little Barbie doll woman who drops off her son at a class my son used to go to. I imagined OW looking like her and I was sort of jealous. In fact, I wouldn't let my husband drop off, or pick up, son from that class!!!

Hummmmm.... I wonder how many women look at us and have these same feelings...

One more thing... the voice!!! OW has a clicky "I'm superior" voice and attitude. There's this little part of me that thinks. Sheesh!!! couldn't he have done better then that???? She sounds about as sexy as one of those metalic answering machines.

[yoyogirl]

us women place a WHOLE lot more importance on things than men do, the night I found the motherload of letters and picts I had H toss all of them into the fire, there was one framed pict, him, being his practical self, took the picts out to get rid of it but since the frame was to his eyes, perfectly usable, he left it on our bedroom

This is sooooooo very true. We women attach every little piece of item with visions of our H with ow, and to men, it's just an item. Nothing more. I recall fighting with H when I insisted that he get rid of her stuff (furniture etc) and he was upset that I wanted to throw perfectly usable stuff. Anyways... it doesn't bother me that much now. Luckily, I am also quite a practical person. Why throw when it's still usable?? True, you know.. Also, if I could accept a tarnished product back, aka H, what are a few non-living usable things??? Besides, I think ow would be kinda upset if she knows that I have been using so many of her stuff!