That must be the ONLY relationship book I have not read. I will get my hands on it soon.
My mental image of my H's OW was so off. It got so bad that I imagined this one woman who works at the Curves I go to looked just like her, and she was very attractive. I hated this poor innocent woman and could barely talk to her. When my snooping finally paid off in a photo, I was so relieved I almost kissed it. She is not ANYTHING special. My H had several times told me I am much more attractive than her, that she is "thick around the middle" and I thought they were more lies designed to protect me. Now I feel so much better, so...superior. I am sick, really!
Thank you for this thread. I smiled my whole way through the last few pages.
BethJ
H 40
Me 40
married 15 years
5 children aged 2-11
Bomb 2-6-05
Now we are piecing, I think