I'm sorry, but I can't help snooping. I think it's wired in me. I have an unquenchable desire for information (in practically everything that sparks my interest... and trying to understand H is one of them).
Personally (at least for me), I don't think snooping is a terrible problem. If anything it helped me piece together the affair, get proof and inform OWs huband that he's married to a floozy (of course, I didn't use such a nice word to describe her).
I was also very good at getting information too. The private investigation firm I used to get cell phone records offered me a job as well. When they couldn't get information about OW's husband I was able to find an enormous amount of stuff i.e. their baby's name and age, parents, grandmother, brother's name... much more than I ever wanted to know!
I'm not necessarily recommending others do this, but it's something I probably won't hesitate to continue at a reasonable level... like I won't sift through his wallet daily!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
