e complains that there is something "every week",
Gosh.. this sounds exactly like my H. He complains that things are Okay, and "I HAVE TO START IT EVERYTIME" and that I cannot leave things as is and MOVE on. So, what is a girl to do?? Sometimes, we just need some answers and we ask. Maybe we shouldn't ask at all, and wait to drop a couplf of hints here and there and see if H takes the hint and open up.... Hopefully, that time will come...

Then he comes later and hugs me, which is something he never does, and appologizes, boy I'm glad I didnt' say anything!

This usually happens to me too!!! Everytime that I am successful in holding back my tongue, I find that H will be either affectionate or reassure me at a much later time. It pays to WAIT!!!

still wish he'd agree to read a couples or R related book w/me
I wished this too.. But Don't think that this will ever happen with my H. If I bring it up, will probably start an argument.... so, might as well I read it on my own.