(and being a strong person in general I had to fall far!)
I feel like I had to fall flat on my face too before I could get up and get on with the business of doing some soul searcing and becoming strong In a loving way. I was so strong I never wanted to let anybody in,,,,The most amazing part to me is that when you change just you ---------->it ripples and everyone around you seems to change too.
Like you all have stated about changing.... I agree. And It takes a really strong person yo look in the Mirror and see the bad and decide to change it for good. Without resentment or anger... so lets keep up the great work !!!!!
...and if more people would do this the world would be a much better place not just Marriages would be affected by this change in attitude. Take care and God bless...