Quote: I'm trying each time to act normal, sometimes I just have to hold myself so I'm not just trying to please him all the time. And today I realized "heck, when we were dating Ididnt' act this way!"
For a long time I was kind of like that perfect "stepford" wife. I spent a lot of time bending over backwards trying to make my husband happy. All I felt like was a doormat and it still didn't "fix" things. Now I realize many of his problems were his (certainly I'm not perfect there are still things for me to work on and I will still put effort into the relationship... but I won't take all the blame or be a repository for a mountain of criticism). I've learned I need to be myself and be strong and confident.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
