Think PATIENCE is the key word here. And also biting your tongue when you feel the urge to ASK. If they are not ready to talk or answer your question, you will get disappointed and he will get upset and withdraws into his shell... And he will think that you are PUSHING and PUSHING. So, the point here is to PATIENT. Eventually, the answer will come out of H voluntarily.
I have too much fear and self-doubt.
After what we've gone through... this is not a surprise. I do have that too..but we have to learn to know that we are GOOD people with GOOD traits, and that our H is just mis-guided...
